Part Time Mommy & Her Busy Bee Daughter

The din and dilemma of being a part time mommy

The Context

I am a first time mommy and a full time working professional. Correction, I am a part time mommy and an overworked professional. As a management consultant, I work 10-12 hour days and sometimes 4-6 hours on the weekends (sic!). It is a rigorous schedule that leaves very little time for my daughter or for writing a blog! Now, my mother is the Supermom who is raising my child and needless to say “Naina Rocks” (Naina is what my daughter calls my mom). Naina also has a perpetual headache, tries to be strict but fails regularly, dreams of her house being tidy and does a little bhangra every night around 7-9 pm when I come home (no pun intended).

Given my rather hectic work schedule, any time that I get to spend with my daughter is priceless. Only it is not!The thing is that my daughter is in the race to become India’s Top Tantrum Throwing Toddler. She is like Dennis the Menace on steroids and then some. Any attempt to reason with her is like asking Donald Trump to make a logical argument or worse hoping KRK will become inactive on twitter! Neither will happen atleast not any time in the foreseeable future. I am not exaggerating. I just feel exasperated. And tired. Also I feel guilty. I want our time together to be perfect. But of late its more din and drama than I can handle. Continue reading

Raising a Toddler - Meals are meant to be messy

10 signs that you are raising a toddler

Anyone who has raised a toddler or is currently raising a toddler knows that it is no mean task. Toddlers are spirited and sprightly little beings who are prone to irrational bouts that involve screaming like a banshee or lying face down on the ground and kicking up a storm for no apparent reason. They have their own unique brand of logic which is mostly unfathomable and something I haven’t been able to decode with any degree of success. As much as I would like to repose my faith in “toddler logic” (why toddlers do what they do?) and get to the bottom of all their weirdness, I am afraid I am not qualified to do so and might never be!

However, I am raising a toddler and here are tell tale signs of the same-

1. You have a piggy on your back

You thought your kiddo would want to walk around now that he/she has actually learnt how to walk. Well, not really. Toddlers can be clingy and will demand to be carried around when you least expect it. Be prepared to piggy back the little monster while you are running errands or are out with friends. On the bright side, carrying a toddler that weighs 12-13 kilos implies you are burning calories quickly (sic!).

2. Your make-up collection is frequently raided

You know you are raising a toddler when she has your lipstick smeared all over her face on a regular basis. Infact, much to my dismay my little monster is convinced that lipstick is the perfect tool to be used for refining her art skills (sic!). Needless to say I have more than a couple of bed spreads that are ruined and my prized mac blush is no longer fit for use !  So, don’t be surprised if your make up is regularly strewn across the floor or hidden behind your sofa cushions – you are after all raising a toddler and this is perfectly normal toddler behaviour.

3. Meal times are messy, messy, messy

I am convinced that toddlers have a do-it-yourself affliction that manifests itself in its worst form at the dining table. They HAVE to eat all their food by themselves. They also INSIST on using the cutlery. And ofcourse they are NOT to be touched while attempting to eat anything! Needless to say they make a big mess of EVERYTHING. You will find food everywhere (and I mean everywhere!) and god help you if your toddler loves noodles or spaghetti ! Continue reading