“Why do we fall, Bruce?”
Really! Tell me WHY, Bruce? Infact tell me why do babies fall?
I would like a reasonable answer,please! I am a Mom.
I have a heart made of Jell-O.
I demand an ANSWER! Sigh…
These cuts, scrapes and wounds are doing me no good. I just feel so damned awful when I hear that terrible thud and I know that my daughter has tumbled or stumbled! And then comes the petrifying wail that makes you freeze for a moment. OMG! What now? Is she Ok? Do we need to go to a doctor? Should I comfort her or treat her? Should I act animated or calm? Should I apply an ice pack or a lotion?
This is the tough part of parenting – seeing your kids fall and get hurt. But babies are resilient. They RISE. Infact they are rock solid TOUGH. How do I know this? Simple, from experience 🙂 I have been a mom for all of 18 months and I can tell you that every time my daughter falls or cuts herself she recovers far quicker than we, her parents do. She is off to her business in no time and more often than not she is upto no good much to our despair! But spare a thought for the poor parent/care taker who gets instantly alarmed especially at the sight of blood and broken bones. The wail of your infant or toddler is enough to create instant panic. Two weeks ago, before we were to go on a vacation overseas, my daughter stumbled face forward and ended up cutting her lower and upper lip with her teeth at 11 pm at night. In a matter of seconds there was blood. Miraaya (my daughter) was stunned and broke into uncontrollable sobs. It was amazing how we pretended to be cool and ended up comforting her rather quickly. An ice pack, a moment of distraction and humming her favourite rhymes helped ease a situation that could have gone out of control pretty quickly. In an hour she had forgotten the fall. In a day she was showing off her cut. In a week she was ready to fall again !
These physical cuts, scrapes and wounds heal. They might leave a scar but the pain eventually goes away. But what about the cuts, scrapes and wounds that are not visible? What about the cuts, scrapes and wounds that run deep and do not heal?
I could not help but think about the innumerable kids who have their innocence snatched away and are victims of child abuse. Abuse that shatters trust and wipes out hope. Abuse that continues unabated till it is detected and stopped. Abuse that damages a child’s personality and makes him/her doubt their self worth. A simple fall and a nasty cut alarmed me as a parent and upset my child. I wondered how parents of children who have been abused cope? How do they help rebuild their child’s life? Can innocence lost ever be recovered? I do not have answers to these questions. But as a parent I would want my child to be safe from all harm – physical, mental, sexual and medical. I would want to caution my child against being abused. I would want to catch the first signs of abuse and stop it before it harms my child. As a parent, we need to educate ourselves about all types of abuse and ensure we are creating a safe environment for our kids to grow up in. This means we need to be alert and aware and maybe a little paranoid.
Ring-a-ring o’ roses,
A pocket full of posies,
We all fall down.
There we go again….