Part Time Mommy & Her Busy Bee Daughter

The din and dilemma of being a part time mommy

The Context

I am a first time mommy and a full time working professional. Correction, I am a part time mommy and an overworked professional. As a management consultant, I work 10-12 hour days and sometimes 4-6 hours on the weekends (sic!). It is a rigorous schedule that leaves very little time for my daughter or for writing a blog! Now, my mother is the Supermom who is raising my child and needless to say “Naina Rocks” (Naina is what my daughter calls my mom). Naina also has a perpetual headache, tries to be strict but fails regularly, dreams of her house being tidy and does a little bhangra every night around 7-9 pm when I come home (no pun intended).

Given my rather hectic work schedule, any time that I get to spend with my daughter is priceless. Only it is not!The thing is that my daughter is in the race to become India’s Top Tantrum Throwing Toddler. She is like Dennis the Menace on steroids and then some. Any attempt to reason with her is like asking Donald Trump to make a logical argument or worse hoping KRK will become inactive on twitter! Neither will happen atleast not any time in the foreseeable future. I am not exaggerating. I just feel exasperated. And tired. Also I feel guilty. I want our time together to be perfect. But of late its more din and drama than I can handle. Continue reading

7 Tips to make return to work after maternity smooth

Return to work after maternity

Juggling a career and raising a child!

The return to work after maternity is a tumultuous time. The eternal conflict between job vs. baby is real. Just when you start getting a hang of the “mommy gig“, you realize it is time to return to the  “job gig”. It is a tough balancing act. What complicates matters is that while you might still be a rookie at raising a child, you are expected to bring your “A” game to work everyday. This is especially true of women who plan a baby in their mid to late thirties which coincides with the most productive period of their careers. They are experienced and well versed in their roles at work but the experience of new parenthood is intense and over whelming and at complete odds with their work routine.

The truth is that while we crave for adult conversations and me-time and might want to get back to the action at work, we are mostly tired, drained and anxious of how our babies will manage without us. Or correction, how we will manage without our babies! Furthermore, the sleepless nights, round the cloth diaper duty, post-partum blues and our out of shape bodies can be a rude reminder of how our lives have been altered since maternity. Add to that, the dread of catching up on all you missed at work and the apprehension of not being able to handle things as adeptly and skillfully as before and you find yourself in a perfect tangle. All of a sudden the return to work after maternity does not sound like a cake walk and seems rather dreadful. There is obviously a lot to consider while planning your return to work after maternity and here are is a list of my top tips to make your return to work after maternity smooth.

  1. Aim for a mid-week start

    The first week back at work will be grueling no matter if you were away for 4 weeks or 20 weeks. I would strongly recommend joining work mid week rather than at the beginning of the week. The prospect of a shorter work week makes it easier to cope physically and emotionally. FACT – IT DOES GET BETTER AND MORE MANAGEABLE AS THE WEEKS WHIZ PAST. Continue reading

My Daughter posing with her Chalkboard

Chalkboard birthday poster – DIY

Chalkboard in Focus

The Family Pic with the Chalkboard

First Birthdays are so much fun! For most parents the first birthday is a BIG milestone. It seems hard to believe that the little bundle that was handed to you in your arms is now all grown up (we parents do exaggerate ;)) and is a little person with his/her own likes and interests! As the first birthday approaches there begins intense planning and discussions on how to celebrate the big day? Celebrating the first birthday can be tedious and nerve-racking. To get over the nerves, you might want to actually create something on your own for your baby that encapsulates his/her key milestones.

The Chalkboard poster is one such great way of showcasing your child’s milestones. It also presents a good photo-op opportunity with the little one on their special day. Infact, you can create a chalkboard for any event be it a birthday or anniversary or an achievement. Continue reading

Egg Freezing is a Fad

Freeze your eggs and free your career ! Why should you freeze your eggs?

The egg freeze rush !“Welcome Ladies, we have great news for you? We will now empower you to freeze your eggs and launch your career.  Isn’t that great! Go get to work and celebrate because your career has been unleashed! #girluninterrupted #careerforlife #babylaterpromotiontoday!

The Problem: Well, this lady for one is just appalled and quite disappointed with Facebook and Apple’s “freeze your eggs” sweetener directed towards their female employees.I fail to see what is great in this move. Tech companies have agreed to pay $20,000 to cover egg freezing for their women employees who want to delay childbirth. Maybe it is the life stage that I am in, being a first time mommy and rediscovering my place at work.  I fail to find merit in an offer to pay women to put off childbirth. This is not just silly but downright senseless. What amazes me is that some women actually find this empowering and are welcoming this move as pro-choice! To my mind, it deflects from the more important issues of equal pay for women and helping women balance career and a family. Infact this “so called perk” actually pushes young women to put off childbirth till very late in the hope that it would push their career to new heights.

Now planning a family is a very personal decision. There are many who believe raising a child is a responsibility that they do not want to take on. Infact they might have ambitions (career or personal) that do not support having a child. I respect those decisions. What I find particularly troubling is to take the decision of procreation literally into the boardroom.Isn’t this ethically wrong? If your employer is offering to pay for a procedure that allows you to delay having a baby, isn’t it because they want you to use your time and energy in your most productive years focusing exclusively on your job without a family to distract you? Sounds pretty darn unethical to me! Continue reading