Part Time Mommy & Her Busy Bee Daughter

The din and dilemma of being a part time mommy

The Context

I am a first time mommy and a full time working professional. Correction, I am a part time mommy and an overworked professional. As a management consultant, I work 10-12 hour days and sometimes 4-6 hours on the weekends (sic!). It is a rigorous schedule that leaves very little time for my daughter or for writing a blog! Now, my mother is the Supermom who is raising my child and needless to say “Naina Rocks” (Naina is what my daughter calls my mom). Naina also has a perpetual headache, tries to be strict but fails regularly, dreams of her house being tidy and does a little bhangra every night around 7-9 pm when I come home (no pun intended).

Given my rather hectic work schedule, any time that I get to spend with my daughter is priceless. Only it is not!The thing is that my daughter is in the race to become India’s Top Tantrum Throwing Toddler. She is like Dennis the Menace on steroids and then some. Any attempt to reason with her is like asking Donald Trump to make a logical argument or worse hoping KRK will become inactive on twitter! Neither will happen atleast not any time in the foreseeable future. I am not exaggerating. I just feel exasperated. And tired. Also I feel guilty. I want our time together to be perfect. But of late its more din and drama than I can handle. Continue reading

Why I want to be a toddler?

I want to be a toddler

Toddlers are awesome and I want to be a toddler. No, I am not drunk. I write from experience of raising a toddler and being both exasperated and in awe of these little monsters. They are cute little beings (atleast they look cute) who keep you on your toes and almost always (ALWAYS !) get their way. They are kick-ass negotiators and have the ability to make an impression (yes, grunting, crying, screaming, whining and making a fuss requires effort). While parenting a toddler is a herculean task I truly admire the toddler gumption and look upto them in admiration (sic!). So, I am certain that I want to be a toddler and given below are some compelling reasons of why

  • “No” rules

    I want to be a toddler so that I can respond with a “No” to every question that I am asked with alarming regularity. Except when there is ice-cream on offer.

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7 Tips to make return to work after maternity smooth

Return to work after maternity

Juggling a career and raising a child!

The return to work after maternity is a tumultuous time. The eternal conflict between job vs. baby is real. Just when you start getting a hang of the “mommy gig“, you realize it is time to return to the  “job gig”. It is a tough balancing act. What complicates matters is that while you might still be a rookie at raising a child, you are expected to bring your “A” game to work everyday. This is especially true of women who plan a baby in their mid to late thirties which coincides with the most productive period of their careers. They are experienced and well versed in their roles at work but the experience of new parenthood is intense and over whelming and at complete odds with their work routine.

The truth is that while we crave for adult conversations and me-time and might want to get back to the action at work, we are mostly tired, drained and anxious of how our babies will manage without us. Or correction, how we will manage without our babies! Furthermore, the sleepless nights, round the cloth diaper duty, post-partum blues and our out of shape bodies can be a rude reminder of how our lives have been altered since maternity. Add to that, the dread of catching up on all you missed at work and the apprehension of not being able to handle things as adeptly and skillfully as before and you find yourself in a perfect tangle. All of a sudden the return to work after maternity does not sound like a cake walk and seems rather dreadful. There is obviously a lot to consider while planning your return to work after maternity and here are is a list of my top tips to make your return to work after maternity smooth.

  1. Aim for a mid-week start

    The first week back at work will be grueling no matter if you were away for 4 weeks or 20 weeks. I would strongly recommend joining work mid week rather than at the beginning of the week. The prospect of a shorter work week makes it easier to cope physically and emotionally. FACT – IT DOES GET BETTER AND MORE MANAGEABLE AS THE WEEKS WHIZ PAST. Continue reading

Co-sleeping : Living life on the edge

Co-sleeping with baby

Recently I read this quote “If you are not living on the edge you are taking too much space”. I beg to disagree. I have been living on the edge for two years and how! No, I am not into bungee jumping or scuba diving and I am definitely not jumping out of a plane for thrills anytime soon. I am just a mom who has been co-sleeping with her toddler daughter since the day she was born. So, I have been literally “living life on the edge” of my bed ! And boy, is it constricted for space if you are co-sleeping with a hyperactive toddler who loves pushing you off your own bed with alarming regularity every single night. It is no surprise that I often find myself awake in the middle of the night trying to negotiate my way back into the bed ! Continue reading

Raising a Toddler - Meals are meant to be messy

10 signs that you are raising a toddler

Anyone who has raised a toddler or is currently raising a toddler knows that it is no mean task. Toddlers are spirited and sprightly little beings who are prone to irrational bouts that involve screaming like a banshee or lying face down on the ground and kicking up a storm for no apparent reason. They have their own unique brand of logic which is mostly unfathomable and something I haven’t been able to decode with any degree of success. As much as I would like to repose my faith in “toddler logic” (why toddlers do what they do?) and get to the bottom of all their weirdness, I am afraid I am not qualified to do so and might never be!

However, I am raising a toddler and here are tell tale signs of the same-

1. You have a piggy on your back

You thought your kiddo would want to walk around now that he/she has actually learnt how to walk. Well, not really. Toddlers can be clingy and will demand to be carried around when you least expect it. Be prepared to piggy back the little monster while you are running errands or are out with friends. On the bright side, carrying a toddler that weighs 12-13 kilos implies you are burning calories quickly (sic!).

2. Your make-up collection is frequently raided

You know you are raising a toddler when she has your lipstick smeared all over her face on a regular basis. Infact, much to my dismay my little monster is convinced that lipstick is the perfect tool to be used for refining her art skills (sic!). Needless to say I have more than a couple of bed spreads that are ruined and my prized mac blush is no longer fit for use !  So, don’t be surprised if your make up is regularly strewn across the floor or hidden behind your sofa cushions – you are after all raising a toddler and this is perfectly normal toddler behaviour.

3. Meal times are messy, messy, messy

I am convinced that toddlers have a do-it-yourself affliction that manifests itself in its worst form at the dining table. They HAVE to eat all their food by themselves. They also INSIST on using the cutlery. And ofcourse they are NOT to be touched while attempting to eat anything! Needless to say they make a big mess of EVERYTHING. You will find food everywhere (and I mean everywhere!) and god help you if your toddler loves noodles or spaghetti ! Continue reading